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Mindset

So, I’ll start by asking a question here, What exactly is “The Mindset”? I often see many talk about having a good mindset, having the mindset to deal with threats, etc. etc. So, what does the mindset entail exactly then?

See, the main, the basest mindset that every living creature on this planet has, is of Survival. Survival at all costs. Even sexual reproduction was evolved due to Survival being programmed into the genes of complex multi-cellular organisms, from reptiles to mammals, every creature has a survival instinct.

For us humans though, it gets a bit more complicated, see, maybe our stone age ancestors got by on the same survival instinct back in the day, but we, as we’re today, are not the same as we were a few hundred thousand years ago. Today, there are a lot of implications for having a total survival based mindset. It has consequences on a societal level and legal and moral level as well. Think about making a choice between saving you and some stranger from being shot, who would you choose? What about the aftermath of that choice, if you chose you or if you chose them? Both will lead to destructive aftermaths.

The thing about having a particular mindset is to have an appropriate mindset according to where you are, who you are and when you are and taking into account the future of where you will be. Military personnel will have different mindsets, but even then, different military personnel will have different mindsets, for example, a Marine would have a different kind of mindset, but a Military Police would have a different mindset, but an administrative clerk in the Military will have a different mindset, and a General will have a different mindset, etc. and so on.

Now this is just talking about the military mindset. What about the mindset of a police officer? Can their mindset be the same as a soldier? Well, that would depend on many different factors wouldn’t it? Firstly, where they are, do they have a desk job? Or are they out on the street? If it’s the second one, are they in a low crime or a high crime area? Both will require different mindsets, mind you. High crime will require high level of vigilance and the officer will have to be extra careful if they are talking to someone, or pulling someone over, but in a low crime area, even though, threats may exist in those areas as well, maybe some violent individual has crossed into that part of town, either way, in that area, having high vigilance might cause an overreaction in a small matter that didn‘t need to be escalated, leading to an unnecessary negative outcome. Here’s the thing though, even in the high crime area, a police officer cannot have the same mindset as a soldier in combat. Because killing someone by sniping them, may lead to extreme consequences. When soldiers do so, they are following orders, their goal is to fulfill the order given to them by their superior. In a police officer’s case, they have to make the decision themselves, there are no superiors giving them orders at the time of a violent situation. Their mind will need to process everything and make a decision as opposed to a soldier following orders, they already know what they have to do, of course that doesn’t mean that a soldier just blindly goes into combat, no, what I mean by that is the end goal is much clearer to a soldier in combat, than to an officer in a possible life threatening situation.

The mindsets, as a result will change a lot between these two. One has to make decisions based on the orders given to them and are often with a team and back up, and possible aerial support and complete the mission by any means necessary. The other, is on their own, often have no back up or the back up is minutes away, and has to take everything into account, and make a decision that will alter their life regardless of what happens.

Two extreme situations, the threat, the violence is often very high in both situations, but the mindsets required to navigate through those situations, will differ. They have to, in order to make sure that least possible damage occurs to the individuals involved those situations.

Now those were extreme situations for professionals, but what about a normal everyday individual with no experience with violence, suddenly coming in contact with a violent situation? What about their mindset? Well, as I wrote earlier, regardless of what or who you are, you have survival instincts ingrained into your genetics. The only difference is that the above mentioned professionals, have trained to cultivate a certain mindset appropriate for their professions as a necessity, but an average individual, with today’s availability of food, clothing and shelter, don’t need to have that survival instinct, they have everything they need to survive, and as a result, will not have cultivated that mindset. So, when they come across a violent situation, the only response their brain knows, is nothing, which translates to freeze response. The brain cannot access the genetic area where survival is programmed, due to not having accessed it before. So, an average individual’s mindset is basically composed of, going to work, eating, coming home to their family, maybe having a little fun, watching t.v., going on a holiday, having sex, shitting and sleeping, not necessarily on the same day and in that order, but yeah, that‘s the gist of it, they don‘t need constant vigilance, they don’t want it and they don’t even know what it is.

On the other hand, take a violent individual, who has experience in really hurting someone. Let’s say a home-invading serial killer/rapist. I’m purposely taking that extreme example here to contrast the previous one. Well, this individual, has most probably their whole life hurt others to get what they want, to intimidate and then mutilate because it makes them feel like a god who is in control of life and death. They enjoy the rush of seeing someone writhe in pain, they get off in seeing children cry and make their mothers cry harder. This individual in their whole life has seen and done violent things that would make someone like the above, puke in their mouth. This violent individual is most probably searching for a new victim because he/she is bored and wants to feel the rush. So, at this point, let’s say they come across an average individual, following him to his house. Now, this average joe, not having the vigilant mindset that of a soldier or a police officer or even just a trained civilian contractor, etc. doesn’t notice the stalker and leads him to his home, giving the stalker, an easy target. Now what kind of mindset will this violent individual have? This one will most probably be a psychopath, so lack of empathy, an adrenaline junkie, probably an addict, narcissistic, manipulative, pathological, most likely delusional, extremely violent, will do anything to get what they want, etc. etc.

Now, based on the above description, what chance does an average joe stand against someone who is far more experienced, far more skilled in violence and far superior in a predatory mindset than himself. How does he protect his family? By training, you’d say. Fine. Yes, that makes sense, but unless he can be trained in the next few seconds before he and his family are slaughtered like cattle and eaten, training now isn’t gonna do much, is it. What can happen though, is the natural survival instincts in him, the pre-programmed survival response, might be triggered, because now, not only his life is threatened, but the life of someone who will help carry his genes forward and a part of him, his child, are threatened as well. It might be that he himself may not survive, due to lack of his brain’s ability to respond, but chances of his family surviving, would be increased. It might even happen that a response may be triggered in his wife, and she might help in taking down the predator as well. Strength in numbers just might give them a chance.

That being said, logically, if it’s a sudden invasion, which it usually is, who has a greater chance of winning here? The predator with experience and the willingness to be violent or the one who hasn’t come across anything remotely violent since he had a small fight in high school, which was broken up by the principle. Did you say the first one? Well, in that case, you’re the predator, aren’t you? You are the serial killing home invader, because that mindset came from him doing that for years, he wasn’t trained in it. If you said, the second one, well, that’s because you most probably are one of the individuals with that mindset, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of, this is the normal mindset according to the time we live in, you don‘t need violence to survive, to get food or fight over territory, you can just buy a home or rent it, so the violent nature has no use of it in your daily life, unless you‘re a professional who deals with it as a part of your job. That being said, it does not mean that the second mindset won’t win against the predator, why? Because external factors will play a role in the outcome. Plus another factor will play in, it’s the most important and the most natural one, it’s your preprogrammed survival instincts. You were made to protect yourself and your genes. Since now, not only you, but your gene pool is threatened, chances are you will fight back and probably even win, you may not survive the ordeal, but your family does have a chance. People with zero training have survived career criminals and done incredible things. They have surprised themselves. When the survival instincts have been activated, even the most calm people, are capable of extreme violence in order to protect their own.

So, a question here based on all of that. Which mindset is better to have? The very first one of a soldier, the second, of a police officer, the third of an average joe or the fourth of a predator, or an unmentioned fifth one, of a trained civilian? The answer isn’t as simple as one might think, you see, if you chose the last one, the trained civilian one, well, it’s not the best answer, why? Because, first, that mindset, doesn’t technically exist, and two, let’s face it, many “combatives” instructors who do train civilians, basically either give you a mindset of a soldier or a mindset of a criminal, there are some who even try and give you the mindset of an action movie star, avoid them like the plague!

Very rarely someone even tries to get close to something like a trained civilian and even then, it’s still more physical violence oriented, which again doesn’t take into account other factors involved before, during and after, the legal, the moral, the psychological, the societal, environmental. They are just trained like they would a police officer or a bouncer. Maybe a lock or a joint there or a punch and a palm heel strike there.

So when people say ‘have a proper mindset’ what exactly does it mean? Well, I don’t know what they mean, but for me, it’s having the basest need to survive. Having the on and ‘off switch’ in you. I have even written an article about that before. For me, it’s not training like a soldier, or a police officer or a career criminal that helps, but instead training like a survivor that does. I don’t need to know how a sniper rifle works, I’d love to know out of sheer curiosity, but not because I want to snipe people out of existence. Same way, I don’t wanna learn how to arrest people, that’s not my job, it’s the brave people’s job.

My only job and my duty is my survival, my protection and I prefer to train that way. But here’s the thing, it’s not just physical survival, that’s where this differs from the above mentioned complete survival instincts from the stone-age times, no, since there are consequences of our actions, our actions should be based on survival from all aspects of today’s society, such as legal aspects. I prefer to have a mindset where I do and don’t do things to keep myself safe from all possible angles beforehand, before the violent situation has even come across me. I develop my mindset, according to my situation and my needs. This is the same thing that should be done, that should be trained, you train as per your situations and your needs. You are not training for violence or to counter it, you are training to educate yourself on what violence entails and how you can avoid it and keep yourself safe from it and from all fundamental aspects of dealing with it. Safety and survival of your genes is important and what your mindset should be and is naturally, it definitely should be that fundamentally simple, but as we have evolved, our societal constructs have evolved with us. As a result, we need to evolve in our methods of being safe to suit those constructs. Taking into account all those factors which would affect us beforehand, during and in the aftermath, is what’s truly a modern survivor’s mindset.

Well, that’s it. Hope I got my point across. Thanks for reading.

Psychopaths and Sociopaths

A thought I’d like to share, it’s a little description of psychopaths and sociopaths and what their basic MO is like, I’ll keep this article brief.

So, to begin, Psychopaths use more of a direct approach by using emotional mimicry and give a false sense of security to their victims, gaining their trust and luring them in, this can be over a long period of time or just minutes, even seconds, depending on their motives, the kind of individual the victim is and the environment they’re in. They’re extremely good at detecting emotional vulnerability and are exceptional at mimicking the emotions of an average individual, even mirroring them perfectly to build rapport with their victims on an emotional and psychological level to get in their psyche and make them get their guard down, via distraction or manipulating the situation in their favor. The victim generally doesn’t detect a psychopath until the damage has been done, but signs can be identified in the interview process of threat identification. Psychopaths, in majority of cases, are asocial predators.

Sociopaths on the other hand, are quite different in their approach, they tend to take an indirect approach by using pseudo charms. cleverly used linguistic cues and micro gestures to influence the thoughts and behavior of their victims towards the direction that would help fulfill their agenda, they are unempathetic to their victims just as psychopaths are and they always look for any psychological vulnerabilities or insecurities in you that they can exploit, once found, they will use them to make you doubt yourself, make you question your self-worth, create weakness and make you lose your sense of self-confidence, self-esteem and will control your actions through their words. The victim of a sociopath, unlike a psychopath’s victim, usually doesn’t realize that they’re victims, even when showed evidence of it, due to them becoming completely dependent on their predator, sociopaths are exceptional liars and manipulators, they use others to do their work and are even protected by those they manipulate, they avoid physical violence themselves, but let others commit violent acts on their behalf. It’s quite hard to spot a sociopath, since they blend in really well, but if you do manage to identify them by detecting anomalies in their behavioral patterns, you can avoid being a victim and their words, like magic, won’t affect you, once the trick is revealed. Sociopaths, in many cases, are social predators.

Both have their M.O, but their end goal is the same, exploitation of their victim’s weaknesses to get what they want from them, whether it’s money, control, promotion, sex or life.

 

There’s much more detail to it, but these are their fundamental traits to look out for. Hope you found it useful, there’s another article I wrote, related to this topic on how a predator’s mindset works, check it out HERE. If you want to know how to lose a stalker, check out my article on How To Lose Tail. Thanks for reading.

Losing Tail (Part – 1)

I was watching a video about stalkers today. You know, as we all do everyday and I remembered I wrote an article about the predator mindset, behavior etc. So I was just contemplating some things about stalkers and how they behave and what goes through their minds, etc. While doing that I would come up with some counter measures to escape a stalker. Actually there are different kinds of stalking and tailing, it could be a PI tailing the target or the target is under surveillance for some reason, or a bounty hunter is sent after the target, etc. etc. It can be on foot or in vehicle/s.

In this article, I’m just gonna write about counter-measures for a “generic” stalker rather than a PI or Bounty Hunter, etc. Why? Because I don’t want to give any ideas to potential criminals to escape, that’s why. I prefer helping the non-criminals understand these things.
So! Firstly, here’s what you need to know how the professional surveillance individuals prep to tail their subjects and some of their methods (not in too much detail of course, just some basics). Now, A guy obsessed with a woman or a woman obsessed with a guy are different kind of stalkers, they usually make their presence known and mostly don‘t care if their victims know about them, in fact some purposely want to be known.

That’s unlike a professional tail who will be a ghost, a gray man, they will never make themselves known, no identifying features on any part of the body, normal clothing, no identifying jewelry (rings, etc), common haircuts, no facial hair or common facial hair, no scars or unique behavior that would stand out, no excessive muscles, average height, etc. Nothing to draw attention to themselves from anyone which includes their targets. They are the most plain and average looking individuals you’ll ever see or not see. They blend in perfectly just about anywhere.

So here’s the thing, since I’ve started this, I’ll make this post a kind of two-in-one article from both perspectives, or more like a two part actually;
– Surveillance (Which is a sophisticated term for stalking)
– Counter-Surveillance (Which is a sophisticated term for identifying and escaping or catching a stalker or becoming a stalker of the stalker and then catching the stalker).

A civilian version of the topic, if you will.

So, in case if anyone asks, Why aren’t you merging the two? Well, that’s simple, it’s because I don’t want to and because I‘m not too lazy to write two different articles. So…yeah, don‘t sue me, I‘m poor 😦

Now bad jokes aside, let’s begin, shall we?

First let’s start with the different method types for surveillance.

There are different types of surveillance, and some of them are as follows;

  • The type where there are teams who are posted in different zones, as the subject moves from zone to zone, the teams get activated and they report the target’s activity in their zones. It’s very hard to detect, even for someone with training.
  • The type where the teams get rotated everyday. The individuals stalking you today, won’t be there tomorrow. Which makes it harder for the target to identify the stalker/s or even know about their existence.
  • The type where they monitor your net, phone, credit/debit card and banking activities a.k.a. Cyber Stalking.
  • The type where they are just vetting the target for kidnapping or something. It includes keeping a tab on the target’s routine of their daily activities, I.e. the time they leave the house, the time they get back, the routes they use, the time they walk the dog, etc. It can be and usually is done from a distance.
  • The type where they keep a very close and constant watch on the target, including planting microphones in the target’s house.

There are a few more, but right now I can only remember these.

However, the two main categories are;

  1. Stationary surveillance (stakeout) where operative/s stay in one place to monitor the target.
  2. Mobile surveillance (tailing or shadowing) where operative/s or teams move with the target/s (foot or vehicle/s).

 

Here’s a mini/condensed list of preparations that are made by surveillance operatives;

  1. Gathering intel about the target.
  2. Getting to know the routine.
  3. Getting to know their target’s contacts, friends and acquaintances.
  4. Noting down the details of the target’s car/bike – plates, make, model, color, etc.
  5. Locating entrances, exits and vantage points to gain further advantage.
  6. Recon – Getting to know the neighborhood structures they’re gonna be operating in.
  7. Knowing the environment and people so they know how to blend in and not raise suspicion.
  8. Plan routes based on the traveling intel of the target (if they’re going for a mobile surveillance).
  9. If they carry a weapon, they make sure that bulges don’t show. That might attract an unwanted third-party attention.
  10. They’re gray men, they do not attract any attention.

 

A mini list of things that are used/done;

  1. Clothes appropriate for where they’re gonna be, to blend in with the environment and with the people in it.
  2. Surveillance equipment (depends on who they’re tailing, the purpose and the kind of surveillance it is).
  3. A reliable car, that’s not too new and attention grabbing or so old and beat up that they earn the suspicions of the individuals in the neighborhood. They fill it up properly so as to not run out of gas while tailing (if conducting mobile surveillance).
  4. They usually will have a cover story ready in case someone questions their intentions for being in the area. They avoid being truthful even if they’re legally doing so, because that may alert their target, effectively wrecking their operation.

 

So you got an idea about how pro surveillance works? Good. Now, an average stalker just about never is that careful or goes through that much trouble to stalk their target. Depends on their reason for stalking though, but still, they’re usually amateurs who can get easily caught and even scared off in many cases. An average stalker is light years behind a pro, so they’re usually easily identified.

 

Notice:

  • Surveillance is illegal, at least for civilians. So unless and until it’s your job and are licensed and paid to do so, officially, don’t do it. Remember the definition I wrote above? Yeah. It’s stalking. Regardless of the ‘term’ used.
  • There’s much more to surveillance than I mentioned above, but I don’t wanna include a lot of it here, because as I wrote earlier, I don’t wanna give any ideas to the wrong kind of people. Internet has already a lot of dangerous stuff to offer, I don’t think I’d like to contribute to that. I just wrote these things, to show you things from the perspective from a ‘pro stalker‘. An “advanced” stalker. Think of it this way, if you can identify a professional, you will be able to identify an amateur, an obvious stalker with relative ease. Which would give you an upper hand and more options to deal with them. So, win-win. Make sense? Good.

 

Anyway, if this doesn’t interest you, then you can directly move on to Part – 2.